Meeting New People

Official Start Time: 3:05 pm
Date: 10/8/08
Official End Time: 4:27 pm

Meeting new people is always exciting. The first few minutes you share with them has to be the most exhilarating part. Maybe its just the age or the mind state, but everytime I meet new people I'm not sure how to present myself. I want to seem as natural as possible and someone they would want to be friends with. It really takes a few minutes before you establish the connection. Overtime however the connection is strengthened and we are able to share fond memories as if we knew each other like old friends do.

Through my personal experience I can say that making new friends can be an intimidating process. Often we are conflicted between taking the risk of talking to the person and not establishing the connection we had in mind. Taking the first step is always the hardest. Approaching the person is just as hard. Finally, introducing yourself and starting a conversation is where the real pressure comes into play. Taking these risks is totally worth it if you establish a strong connection and make a new friend that you might not have had otherwise.

Once the connection is establish it is up to you to keep it strong. Having interesting topics to talk about and being a little weird can always be helpful tools to keep a connection going. You want the connection to seem as easy as possible and not a seminar. (I feel I do that a lot) The topic doesn't necessarily matter as long as the attention of the person stays in touch. When things look like they are heading south it might be smart to switch the subject and bring up something that causes the other person to laugh.

Chances are the more things you share with the person, the easier it is to talk to them. Asking questions can take some of the pressure off of you and allow you to find out more about the interest your friend-to-be might have. Of course there will be those awkward moments of silence, but overtime the connection will be so strong that you can find a new subject to laugh about.

My best advice would be to mingle. Enter the conversation with an unbiased mind and show confidence. Prove to your friend that you are an open-minded person who has a dynamic character. My formula for success is not the only one but the one that works for me. If you feel more comfortable making new friends in a different way then I think you should pursue it to you hearts content.

Its always fun to meet new people and experience something new ad intriguing.

Sincerely, Hector Guzman
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